As I announced in a previous entry, I decided to go back to online dating after my failures in the off-line dating realm... So I went on a couple of dates with a girl from OkCupid and I'm going to narrate the story here today.
This girl from OKCupid send me a message and I answered a few days later. She was very pretty and we both recently turned 30 so, I decided to meet up with her since we seemed to share the "change of decade" crisis and she seemed to be nice.
We arranged a meeting but she ended up cancelling last minute... I completely dismissed her apology... I'm too old for lame excuses and I don't give a second chance to a stranger. However, she insisted that she was very sorry and sent me multiple messages apologising. I replied at the end due to her insistence and we ended up grabbing a quick drink at the end.
The conversation flowed naturally. She told me that she was working as a business consultant but that she really wanted to be an event planner as she loved to plan and manage business meetings and other types of conference-like things. I, on the contrary, run away from that life as I did work as a marketing manager planning events and hated it. Nevertheless, we seemed to have other things in common (we both love cycling, we both have lived in Brighton for about 5 years and we both speak Spanish). Overall, we had a nice time.
She sends me a text right after the date expressing her gratitude for my time and asking me for a second date. Normally, it takes me a while to get to the point of liking someone, so I wasn't fully sure about her, but she definitely gave me a very good impression.
After several attempts to meet up with no success (this was a bit fishy again), we finally meet up to go out to Revenge with some of her friends (all gay and Spanish). The night was fun, but she seemed to be paying more attention to her friends than to me, so I decided to focus on having a good time and chatting with her friends, dancing and enjoying myself. At some point, one of her friends started to pay special attention to me, I was not particularly interested in her friend, but she was very nice and we chatted for a while. This event made "my date" change her attitude towards me. She suddenly came to me, grabbed me and kissed me as if I was a forgotten toy that she only noticed when someone else pulled it out of the box with the intention to play. I kissed her back, after all, she was very cute and fit and I wanted to enjoy the night, but I knew that something was up with her...
We had a very nice time and we agreed to meet up again over the weekend... However, some of her messages seemed to be very direct but some of them were very evasive... I came to the conclusion that she either had a split personality disorder or there was someone else and I was her plan B... At some point, I got tired of her games and asked her directly about what was going on...
She replied that she had seen someone for three months and that she was quite excited about that other girl... However, I was somehow her backup plan... What I still don't understand is why did she contact me on OKCupid in the first place if she was already seen someone that she really liked...
I guess these days everyone is playing safe by having a plan B prepared and ready in case plan A fails... However, I refuse to play these games... I don't want to be anyone's plan B and, I definitely don't want to have someone else on standby as a plan B either... I'm tired of playing games... but... if you don't play you can't win, or can you?
Lost girly sunglasses! Picture taken in Brighton, August 2015.
